In the last two posts in this Feeding Therapy series, I outlined the feeding and eating program developed by the Ellyn Satter Institute and provided some background to explain how I became a “feeding failure”. Today, I discuss our goals and our plan for getting there.
The ultimate goal of this program is to get my children to the point of Eating Competence, which is a model developed by the Ellyn Satter Institute. As described by the model, eating competent children:
- feel good about eating, and have the drive to eat
- naturally eat as much as they need, and grow in the way that is right for them
- learn to eat the foods their parents eat
- enjoy a variety of foods, and enjoy learning to like new foods
- enjoy family meals, and learn to behave well at mealtimes
In the case of our family, there was a lot of overeating going on, virtually nothing that the adults ate was eaten by the children, the kids had a very limited variety of foods they would eat, and an intense dislike for anything new. Family meals did not happen in our household, and the kids actively resisted the idea of doing so (and frankly, so did I, for reasons outlined in my last post).
Achieving the goal of Eating Competence requires me, the parent in charge of feeding, to follow the Division of Responsibility, which is:
- provide regular meals and snacks
- choose and prepare the food
- serve food at the table, without TV or other distractions
- make eating times pleasant
- show children by example how to behave at mealtimes
- be considerate of your child’s lack of food experience without catering to their likes and dislikes
- don’t serve foods between meal and snacktimes
- let children enjoy the body size and shape that is right for them
I know from past experience that, when starting any new lifestyle plan, it’s important to take baby steps towards the end goal: do the first step until it feels normal and natural, and then add the next. So, as recommended by the program guidelines, I broke the process down based on where we were starting from and the particular eating issues that our family was facing.
- the parent is responsible for providing food
- implement regular meal and snacktimes
- eat one meal at the table together as a family
- gradually have more meals and snacks at the table
- gradually reduce the “extra foods” added to the table to accommodate specific likes and dislikes
In my next few posts, I’ll talk about how it is going, the steps we have implemented, and any difficulties or results we are seeing. Thank you for following along!